Always worried about what the guy would do or think when he found out about my alopecia.
There were the guys who could handle it but they were far out-numbered by the guys that couldn't. I am no different from any other girl out there in the fact that I do something to enhance the way I feel about myself.
When I told him NOTHING..looked at me like I just told him I was an alien.
And you almost want to tell your friends you can’t go on the date, because you don’t know how to handle dating when you are dealing with Alopecia. Go skittering after it, searching among the feet of the other dancers as they unwittingly kicked it away?
I was devastated and my self esteem went rock bottom.
Then I dated another guy, and this time I managed to tell him about my alopecia totalis(all the way crying hysterically), he was amazing and accepted it however it turned out that he has Asperger`s. When I start to feel really crappy I remind myself that this disease is just "superficial".
Some girls spend tons of money on clothes to make themselves feel better.
Some girls buy the push-up bras from Victora's Secret at bucks a pop, or even get implants to enhance their self-esteem.
Then I got smart and thought ..if they want to touch my hair they can..the look of puzzlement came over their faces as they couldnt understand why they felt webbing under my hair.... He said 'while Trina (my sis) will have to weed out all the vain, mean and superficial guys the hard way, I'll probably be more likely to meet the nice accepting guys right off the bat' So maybe we can use it as a tool to discover those boys that are really worthy of our attention :c) *hugs* keep your head up :c)I've had a few guys that knew about my hair and they all accepted it. I am just building up the courage to show him my head without hair. So I did (crying the whole time) and for the first time in my life I was glad I was wrong. I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 4 years and he knows about it and accepts it. But if you look on this website, there are so many women with alopecia that are happily married or in happy relationships. I always found it hard to tell guys about my alopecia. I though I would never find a person who accepts me and understands me. One someone really loves you.will love you for what you really are inside. I can go back to 5 years ago to postings on the NAA website, where I was sobbing becuase some jerk decided he couldnt date me because I wore a wig. If you have a problem with me being bald ....would be your problem not mine. Honestly I just don`t have hair on my head but he had 100 problems compared to me. but I always remind myself that at least it doesn't affect my four healthy limbs and other faculties. and there ARE amazing guys out there who will accept and love you for who you are on the inside.Haha if a guy can't handle it you don't need to waste your time. my first boyfriend knew me throughout grade school and saw the physical changes my hair went through, and yet he still found a way to love me for who i was, not for the way i looked.
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